In this article, we will talk about “twin flames,” the Runner, and the Chaser, because as you will see, there is a strong chance that you and your Runner are high potentials (To understand here, to have a different neuronal functioning and not “super intelligent or something like that.”). I say there is a strong chance because, of course, it depends on each person.
However, from what I have seen so far and also through testimonials from chasers and runners, many of them have been categorized as HPI or HPE.
If we look at a general trend : the Runner would be an emotional empath, and the Chaser a cognitive/compassionate empath. Of course, as usual, I explain things in “black or white” to make it simpler, and it may not apply to everyone.
Understanding these themes will allow us to better understand both the differences between Runner/Chaser, but above all their complementarity and similarity, as in the Runner/Chaser synthesis article.
As a reminder, the following three types of empathy were outlined in Daniel Goleman’s book “Emotional Intelligence,” published in 1995.
The three main types of empathy are:
Cognitive empathy : This is the ability to understand the feelings and perspectives of others. It involves being able to mentally put oneself in someone else’s shoes and understand their thoughts, emotions, and intentions.
Emotional empathy : This involves feeling the emotions of others as if they were your own. It means being able to share and feel the emotions of another person, which can lead to a genuine emotional connection and a deep understanding of the other person’s feelings.
Compassionate empathy : This is the ability to feel compassion and empathy towards others when they are facing difficulties or suffering. It involves being able to recognize the pain or suffering of another person and being motivated to want to help them or alleviate their suffering.
The Runner/Chaser complementarity
Understanding these differences will make you understand the enormous complementarity of the twin flame couple. Once again, I repeat, by complementarity, we do not mean complementarity in the sense of “made to be together,” but complementarity of opposites in terms of mental programming that gives rise to the dynamic we know.
A nuance that makes all the difference.
- The Chaser is an intellectual empath.
- The Runner is an emotional empath.
But we also see that:
- The Chaser is “Yang” and needs to develop his “Yin.”
- The Runner is “Yin” and needs to develop his “Yang.”
In other words… one is the mirror for the other. This then allows us to understand, not from a “couple” perspective but from a self-work perspective, what we can work on.
The Yang Chaser is proactive, assertive, self-confident, very mental, acts easily in the material world, dares to speak his mind, decides easily and quickly, takes matters into his own hands, etc… However, in terms of letting go and emotional openness, he’s a bit clueless LOL! 🤣
The Yin Runner is head in the clouds, generally carefree, lives in letting go (generally), very intuitive, and emotionally hypersensitive, creative, artistic. However, in terms of self-expression, self-confidence, and assertion, he’s also a bit clueless. 🤣
So:
- The Chaser can take inspiration from the Runner and develop his “yin,” thus the letting go aspect.
- The Runner can take inspiration from the Chaser to develop his “Yang” and dare to assert himself and speak his mind.
- The Runner doesn’t stop his life upon discovering the “TF” relationship.
- The chaser stops his life upon discovering the TF relationship (waiting, patience for the other to come back).
In other words, for example here, the Chaser can also draw inspiration from this. If the runner doesn’t put his life on hold even though there’s supposedly a “karmic contract” and all that jazz, then I can do the same. Except that in doing so, the Chaser, through his dependency, will feel that something “bigger than himself” prevents him from pulling the plug.
In other words, if you take this relationship as a source of inspiration and self-work, it can be a real goldmine. As for reunion and “couple” questions, that’s another story, but if everyone talks about reunion lol.
But what is a cognitive and emotional empath?
– A cognitive empath (chaser) is someone who can easily decipher and understand the psychological mechanisms of their interlocutor but feels little of their interlocutor’s emotions.
– An emotional empath (runner) is someone who can easily pick up and feel the emotions of their interlocutor but understands little of their interlocutor’s psychological mechanisms.
The Runner is an emotional weathervane due to their hypersensitivity, making them easily manipulable. Yes, the Runner is highly sensitive and will:
- Capture and experience the emotions of people around them.
- Be engulfed in their own emotions based on what is said to them.
In other words, the Runner is emotionally vulnerable in two ways:
- Firstly, due to the emotions of their interlocutor.
- Secondly, due to the information they receive.
Thus, when faced with a manipulator who manipulates both discourse and their own emotional state, the Runner becomes trapped. They will be completely submerged in emotions. Their psychology can then be easily manipulated. But becareful, Runners knows how to manipulate too. (We will see that in other post).
Now that you understand this difference (and there are others), you can work on yourself using these differences.
If you want to free yourself from the suffering of this journey, I invite you to click here and make an appointment for cognitive behavioral therapy.
To go further :
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- You can book a session here.
- I invite you to read my introduction on the why of this blog
- Original on my French blog here.
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