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The runner’s awakening : a myth or a tangible reality?

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During the twin flame journey, we’ve all explored numerous videos on the subject for quite some time. Among these, one of the less discussed but highly intriguing topics is the famous “runner’s awakening.”

The runner’s awakening is certainly one of the hottest and most anticipated topics from the chasers’ perspective.

On one hand, chasers eagerly await this moment as it would finally fulfill their deepest desires, but on the other hand, they also wonder how and when the runner’s awakening will occur.

In fact, a more accurate question to ask would be :

Is the runner’s awakening truly a factual reality or a projection of the chaser’s fantasies? That’s what we’re going to explore in this article.

The Runner’s Awakening : Myth or Reality?

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If you’re new to the blog, let’s set the context a bit.

I’ve been coaching Twin Flames for 4 years now (in France & Europe), and I’ve been coaching on other topics for 13 years (business etc..). I also built an organization of 30,000 people in my multi-level marketing & done thousands of coaching sessions there… (You can visit the “about me section” to know more.).

So if we get back to the Twin Flame coaching, you can imagine the number of cases of Runners and Chasers I’ve studied during all this time. So, what I’m going to say in this article is based on exploring the psyche of runners and chasers for 4 years in France and Europe.

Although there are general trends, there are also things that are consistently found, if not almost systematically.

It’s also worth considering that when a person comes for coaching with me, their Twin Flame journey has already started for 1, 4, 8, 12 years, or more.

So, when the person arrives for coaching, there’s already a whole history involved. 😏

The majority of the people I coach come with a history of 3 to 7 years in the relationship.

As a result, this will allow us to realize many things that are not pleasant to hear. Indeed, in the online Twin Flame narrative, we like to mask the disturbing reality with “spiritual” concepts that are actually New Age and most and foremost : superstition.

All of this with the sole purpose of continuing to believe what we want to believe by masking the reality of the facts and clinging as best we can to the hope that one day, the relationship will happen.

Why do we cling to hope?

Why do we cling to hope? Simply because we struggle to confront the harsh reality

So, is the runner’s awakening a myth or a reality?

Before answering that question, we need to consider another factor. It’s not pleasant, but it’s life and, most importantly, the reality of the situation.

Anyone in a slightly complicated dysfunctional relationship can find themselves in the framework of the twin flame narrative. It’s all about the judgment/opinion of the person reading the twin flame narrative :

They consider themselves a twin flame or not based on their opinion.

For example:

  • The couple : Spouse/Passive-aggressive.
  • The couple : Empath/Vulnerable Narcissist.
  • The couple : Empath/Covert Narcissist.
  • The dynamic : Avoidant/Anxious Profiles.
  • The dynamic : Chaotic/Anxious Profiles.
  • People in limerence.
  • People with crystallization.
  • Etc…

All these dynamics can be found within the twin flame framework and therefore be considered as Twin Flames.

Then one might say: Yes, but there are very specific “Twin Flames” criteria (very specific?). There are criteria, but many of them precisely overlap with the dynamics of the relationships identified above…

Moreover, the problem is that those who recognize themselves in 2 or 3 Twin Flames criteria will consider themselves twin flames just like those who find themselves in 98% of the criteria, which was my case.

All this to say that the twin flame framework is a huge mishmash that claims to be specific because it is romanticized and spiritualized. It gives the impression that it’s an “extraordinary” journey and therefore different, when in fact, these types of relationships have been well known for a long time. (See listed above).

As I often say, the runner is the master of lies and the chaser the master of illusion. Since the twin flame narrative is a narrative produced by the Chaser, you’ll understand that it will be over romanticized and spiritualized to be able to dream and fits with their own beliefs.

When it comes to love, the chaser is a dreamer who loves to live in a dream world.

Well, if you haven’t understood, the chaser is a big teddy bear! 🤣

So, being a good dreamer, they like to be sold dreams. They will then adhere to speeches that do exactly that : sell them dreams. If it’s based on two or three concrete facts… Then it’s the jackpot, we’re in absolute truth 🤣.

That’s why everyone rushes to energy phenomena to prove that it’s indeed a special and therefore divine relationship. In doing so, we completely ignore the heart of the matter: the subconscious mind is perfectly capable of creating these kinds of connections…

In addition to that, similar energy phenomena are observed in other types of relationships.

So, where am I going with this idea of the twin flame framework?

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It’s very simple: we’re going to watch lots of videos of people considering themselves twin flames without even knowing if the twin flame – the soul split in two wanted by the source with a karmic contract – even exists.

Because let’s set the stage: that’s where we are!

In this mix of people, some will be in a relationship after ups and downs and will call themselves “in reunion.” Except that practically anyone in a dysfunctional and complicated relationship that doesn’t quite happen can consider themselves a twin flame…

So, reunions can mean everything, and yet nothing…

I myself was in a relationship for 7 years with an avoidant profile, and if I had read the twin flame narrative at the time (but at that time this narrative was inexistant), I would have recognized myself in it 95%… Everything matched.

So, based on this principle, it will make you believe that reunions are possible, and yes, on one hand, they are because we do occasionally find people in a relationship saying they are “in reunion with their runner.” But essentially, it’s just a couple, and “nothing crazy” is happening.

However, they remain really very rare, because in this type of relationship, the depth of the wounds is such that it results in what we know: a dysfunctional, complicated relationship that doesn’t really happen… Which brings us to another point that won’t be pleasing at all:

The depth of the wounds/lines of code.

For example, if the runner is a Narcissistic Abuser, you have a better chance of winning the lottery than having your “twin flame reunion.”

The reason is simple: this type of person always believes they are right and you are wrong. There is no glimmer of change on the horizon, because if the person is always right, why would they question themselves?

Sure, the Source could intervene, but did it during wars in recent millennia or currently in some countries in turmoil?

Apparently, human affairs are settled among humans…

The important point here is this: in this multitude of people “finding themselves in the twin flame narrative,” we will have everything in terms of the depth of wounds.

Yet, despite the variety, there is unfortunately a rarity of these so-called “reunions.”

Why?

Because the very framework of the twin flame narrative describes :

A relationship that does not work, but one would like to see it work.

Although both individuals feel an attraction to each other, they are not compatible, and that is why the relationship does not work.

In fact, this extraordinary attraction is the result of the compatibility of their respective traumas, nothing more, nothing less.

It’s like the heroin addict who has just found his syringe: a cry of joy resounds throughout the universe, and a profound relief takes hold of him. Yet, this person gradually kills themselves without realizing it.

In my opinion, it is the divine who put the syringe on their path to allow them to work on their traumas.

Ah, how mischievous the Divine is! 🤣

In fact, from the start, the dice are loaded. However, we are blinded by the intensity of the feelings (feeling of certainty, etc.) produced by the energetic encounter and the interlocking of respective traumas creating this extraordinary attraction and magnetism.

Then, once the tide starts to turn, we are in cognitive dissonance and denial of reality.

We delve into New Age spirituality, trying to cling to, or even adopt, “spiritual” reasoning that attempts to explain that what we are experiencing is normal because it’s the story of the soul split in two, the yin and yang, the karmic contract, and so on.

I love stories, fantasies, science fiction too, but what does real-world experience say?

Hey? Wait, I can’t hear you… SPEAK UP PLEASE! 🤣

It’s a matter of statistics.

I remember back when I used to watch tarot readings, a video was just posted on a channel and the title was something like:

“The masculine is coming back and getting ready for reunion.”

In 24 hours: 47,000 video views.

So, logically speaking, 47,000 unreunited individuals watching a video of someone who themselves claimed not to be in reunion.

Even if there were one reunited person in the mix (but a reunited person doesn’t watch videos about Twin Flames. It’s quicker to just text their other half to see how their day is going…)

But let’s be nice, that would give us :

(1/47,000)*100 = 0.0021% Twin Flames reunion.

Well, that’s not exactly inspiring.

Let’s get wild, imagine now 1000 reunited couples watching the video, that would give us

(1000/47000)*100 = 2.1% Twin Flames reunion.

Well, still not that inspiring.

Since the chaser is a dreamer, it’s the kind of reasoning they won’t appreciate, so it is better to focus on:

  • Adapting to the emotional rhythm of the Runner,
  • Divine intervention,
  • Keeping the faith,
  • Working on oneself,
  • Let’s bet everything on telepathy,

In fact, the truth is, those are the only branches left to cling to…

Well, let’s call ourselves enlightened spirits, it sounds better. My apologies 🙂

Anyway, keep the faith, be patient, and mess up your life while you still can, it would be stupid to miss the boat. After all, apart from the Runner, who else can mess up your life so much? 🤣🤣🤣

Ah crap, I did it again… oups 💩

Now, let’s consider another aspect.

Although in every bunch of people defining themselves as twin flames, some claim to be reunited, here’s what they don’t tell you and you can’t know, unless you have these people on the phone and you dig :

  • What is the quality of their daily relationship?
  • How long did their “reunion” last?

For this last question, trust me, you really don’t want to know the answer 😃😃

And in the end, you’ll arrive as a good Chaser and give me the name of a reunited Twin Flames couple who are living the good life. Meaning a satisfying couple relationship, a normal relationship.

And you’ll be right, because there will be some in the bunch. After all, in France, every month, there are 8 new millionaires thanks to gambling systematically…

For it to work, you need tens of millions of players so that at some point, the right combination falls. If there were only 10,000 players instead of tens of millions in each draw, the jackpot would “almost” never be won…

So, when we bring up THE name of a reunited Twin Flames couple, we then fall into full cognitive distortion of generality. We take a very rare case and make it a generalization, to prove that there are indeed reunions.

Facts, nothing but the facts, that’s all that matters.

So, where are we with the runner’s awakening?

So obviously, when you look at all these Twin Flames journeys that come into coaching and have several years of history, Jedi returns, you’ve had a dozen or so. But does the runner come back to build honestly, sincerely, and with rock-solid commitment?

Just writing these words made me laugh. Yes, sorry, but let’s tell the truth.

Another fact to take into account is this…

You have your version of your relationship reality, your hopes, and your beliefs. You also have all the YouTube content which is pretty much the same stuff (in France, Europe, Usa, Canada) you’ve been gorging on like a goose hoping to become spiritual and find answers to your questions. In fact, all these YouTube videos more or less tell the same story.

What you don’t have, however, is the other side of the mountain:

Thousands of cases sifted through with questions that annoy because they’re going to make you spit out your truth 🤓.

And yes, because in the Twin Flames journey, everyone repeats the same information and we go around in circles, but no one really cares about what’s already inside you

  • When you go to see a medium, it’s him who reveals information to you.
  • When you go to see a tarot reader, it’s him who reveals information to you.
  • When you come to me, it’s you who reveals your truth.

The coaching process is completely the opposite of what is proposed in the Twin Flames journey.

In coaching, I will also give you information like I do here, but when we move into emotional release, all your truth will come out on its own, and you might even be surprised to hear the answers coming out of your mouth because you will understand what drives you and pushes you towards X or Y.

In particular, you will realize that the reasons pushing you to want this reunion are nothing more than fear and lack, and absolutely not love.

In emotional release, you then have access to YOUR true reasons contained WITHIN YOU.

So now, imagine after 4 years of Twin Flames coaching and seeing all the recurring code lines of Runners & Chasers, you realize that the result we observe is completely coherent. There’s nothing irrational, nothing magical, it’s just cause and effect.

  • There’s what you consciously think.
  • There’s what your subconscious thinks.

When you have access to all of this, it’s like when someone shows you the resolution of a magic trick: you have that AH-AH moment.

Before, you thought the magic trick was really magic, when you’re shown the trick, you say to yourself: damn, these guys are really smart! Well played.

It’s exactly the same here.

As in the Twin Flames journey, we don’t want to go look at the thoughts of the subconscious, we don’t want to treat them, because we’re too scared of them. We’ll then hide in cheap spirituality (new age) to cover it all up.

  • We take Yin Yang for energies when they’re just labels and categories.
  • We take the tarot for a divinatory tool when it was originally a psychological self-coaching tool from the 13th century,
  • Etc.

Actually, that’s where the whole problem lies

As the twin flame narrative is primarily created and fueled by Chasers, the perception of the relationship is inevitably seen through their own mental programming (unconscious programs).

For instance, all the chasers I’ve had in coaching for the past 4 years have this line of code :

“I am incomplete (or not enough) and I will find the person who will complete me.”

In other words, this line of code (programming) will be transposed through a spiritualized narrative that will not talk to you about a soul split into 8 or 12, but into 2.

So, when you hear that Twin Flame narrative and so what’s happening to you in real life, is because your soul is split into 2. Suddenly, like a drug addict, it resonates with you because you hear what you already believe

But you won’t be told about the book “Conversations with God” by Neal Donald Walsch, a huge hit worldwide in 1995, where in volume 1 he tells you that your soul is split into thousands of parts. living a human life in diferents space and time.

There would be you here now in 2024 and another part of you in 1800 BC, and another in 1908, then another living a life in 4377, and so on.

Well no, because if we told you that, it would go against the conditioning that the Chaser needs to continue stuffing their head with information that reassures them about this relationship that’s on the rocks.

What “makes me laugh” is that when you get into spirituality, you’ll hear everything and anything and nonsense. No one knows a damn thing about how things are organized “up there” or even why. Everyone has their own opinion and beliefs.

The Chaser’s problem is that they want to believe what they want to believe about the Runner’s intentions.

They project onto what the other feels and wants. But it’s going to be difficult for the Chaser to really know what the Runner thinks since the Runner is a fan of:

  • Silence
  • Ambiguous communication
  • Role reversals
  • Ghosting
  • Gaslighting
  • Lies
  • And so on…

Also, the Chaser will cling to wanting to believe that they are right and will not want to give up on that. (How many Chasers have told me this during emotional release sessions). So, the entire twin flame narrative is based on what the Chaser believes despite the facts of the relationship dynamic.

All the answers you’re looking for, are contained in the results, of your relationship dynamic.

Read that sentence carefully : it’s key.

All the answers you have, because your relationship as it is, is the result of what it gives… Since we don’t accept being wrong, we will deny what doesn’t suit us in order to gorge ourselves on any discourse that would suit us.

Except that…

Since your Runner won’t reveal their hand… they won’t tell you what they really think.

Except that when the Runners come into coaching, they tell me “almost everything” because I ask the questions that nobody dares to ask.

To go further :

  • You can find us on instagram here.
  • You can book a session here.
  • I invite you to read my introduction on the why of this blog
  • Original on my French blog here.

Alexis

🔆 Somatic Trauma Therapist.
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